Ed Miller

As a fourth-generation member of our synagogue, Ahavas Israel has always been a very important part of my life. From Hebrew School through bar mitzvah, from participation in USY locally and regionally, and now as an adult, I have served on many different committees.

My wife Paula and I raised three wonderful children at Ahavas, starting with their baby Naming/Brit Milah, their Bnai Mitzvahs, Lindsay and Danielle having their Weddings at Ahavas, and Sam having his Aufruf at Ahavas. This has given us such joy and Nachas over the years. Together we raised our three children at shul and impressed on them the importance of active synagogue life.

I have served on the Board of Trustees for over 35 years, including 4 years as President. It has been my honor to serve for many years on the Hevra Kaddisha (burial society) committee and now serve as its chair. I also have served for many years on the Cemetery committee and now am the chair of this committee as well. Currently, I serve as Chair of the 25/125 Celebration Committee.

We are planning a very special community-wide celebration at the end of May, beginning of June. Rabbi Krishef has been leading our congregation for 25 years, and our congregation will be celebrating 125 years as a Kehillah Kedoshah (holy community) in Grand Rapids. Please save the weekend of May 31st – June 2nd as it promises to be a weekend to remember. We will have a very special Shabbat morning service followed by a luncheon. On Sunday will be a festive community celebration “under the big top” in our own backyard. We will present opening ceremonies at 11 am sharp, a Klezmer band, a Glatt kosher food truck, and kids’ entertainment. If you have not made your reservations, please do so today.

Ahavas Israel has been the center of my life for so long, but I could not have done it without the support of my loving wife Paula.

As much as I’ve given to Ahavas Israel over the years, it has given me so much more in return. I highly recommend for all of you to get involved in the richness that our synagogue life has to offer you. You will be highly rewarded through your participation.

Eddie Miller

Ahavas Israel Board Member                                                                                                                                                                              

Passover, the Celebration of Liberation - Pat Weller

On Passover we sit at our tables, which are set with our finest dinner wear, and serve many courses of delicious food to our family and guests for this celebration.

So as we celebrate this holiday, let each one of us walk in the footsteps of our ancestors as we try to experience the fear and happiness that they felt when leaving Egypt and freeing themselves from the bonds of slavery.

On the night of the first Seder, we follow the service in the Haggadah, and the youngest child always asks the “Four Questions.” The first of the four questions is — “Why is this night different from all other nights?” Before we answer this question, think of how our people started out on their unknown journey into the desert and freedom.

On this night of the first Seder, try to recall and experience the feelings, doubts, and wonders that our people must have felt then as Moses led them out of the land of Pharaoh, and with God’s help, love, and some times His wrath, delivered the Jews to the Promised Land.

The Seder is also a joyous occasion, a gathering of family and friends who join in the recitation of the historical story in the Haggadah. It is a time to discuss, question, and most importantly, to teach the meaning of this holiday to the next generation, our children. The reason is to recall our Jewish history and background in order to understand our laws that were handed down to Moses from God on Mount Sinai and passed on through time to us. It is also a time of personal renewal, just as it is the time that spring renews the world.

My wish for everyone is to have a very Happy Pesach. Enjoy peace and love with the company of your loved ones.

Happy Passover to you all.

Pat Weller

Ahavas Israel Board Member

Torah Study - Guy DeJager

In the month of January, Theresa and I began a Torah reading/ discussion group at Congregation Ahavas Israel. It was a new weekly Torah study group, lay-led, that met on Monday evening in the chapel. Each week, we read the current parashah (weekly Torah reading) out loud. The goal was to read and discuss the text itself, to see and understand the Torah on its own terms, to grow spiritually, and to connect with each other through Torah.

In addition we hoped it would help anyone else who was interested in the treasures of the Torah to see some different perspectives through other people's eyes and to be open to the varied wisdom and revelations offered in Hashem’s Holy Torah.

On one of the weeks, we read and discussed the parashah Yitro. What a treasure trove of knowledge and study it was. When studying profound texts, how do you pick one or two items to look at from such riches and wisdom? There are many things that are worth mentioning; however, here are a couple items that really stood out to us.

The first item that really stood out to me was the story of how Hashem told Moshe to tell the people to prepare themselves by washing themselves and their clothes and putting up a barrier to the mountain so no man or beast will touch the mountain because Hashem was going to come to them there. He would be among the children of Israel, and there were strict instructions required.

Here is where I question one of the things unsaid; because Moses would be on the mountain with Hashem, what was it that Moshe himself had to do in preparation to meet with the creator of the universe? Were there special offerings required? Were his years in the wilderness after he fled Egypt his purification?

In addition, another question that perplexed me was how is it that Yitro, a priest and most likely a pagan priest from a foreign nation, got a portion in our Torah named after him? We do not hear the parashah of Pharaoh or of Nebuchadnezzar. These questions, as well as many others, leave lots of room for vivid, vibrant discussions.

Our Ancient texts are a great heritage that have been given to us, and these treasures are for all of us to explore. Let us keep ourselves open to the wisdom of the Mighty One and his gifts to us found in the Torah. Let us never stop exploring!

Past, Past President,

Guy De Jager

Ahavas Israel Board Member


Once Upon A Time I Grew Up in Skokie, and Now I Settled In Grand Rapids - Cary Fleischer

When I was younger, 60 + years ago, I grew up in Skokie, Illinois. I grew up hanging out at the local Synagogue with my family and friends. Classmates were 95% Jewish, and I remember a few friends who lived down my street who were not Jewish. 

My parents have always belonged (and still do) to the Reconstructionist Synagogue where they had been founding members in 1953.  They had immigrated to Skokie from their home in the area still referred to as the “Chicago Great Vest Side.”

I played basketball for the synagogue, belonged to the local JCC, and ate at Sam & Hy’s Deli. The Chazzan played poker with my parents in the basement; at 7:00 a. m. my father would wake me to attend minyon for morning services before school. I not only grew up Jewish, but my life revolved around Jewish centers and Jewish friends. 

After high school, I went to Washington University in St. Louis and joined a Jewish fraternity where one of my good friends was Greek — not Jewish. After finishing my education, I later joined a mostly Jewish law firm.  As the years went by and my life changed, I rarely attended synagogue except for services on Rosh Hashanah.

Then, three years ago, I moved to Grand Rapids. Instead of having a law partner named Deyoung, I now lived in a place with Deyoungs everywhere. I have mostly non-Jewish neighbors with whom I have wonderful friendships. I do not see any discrimination in my everyday life. 

So how is my life different now? 

I find myself having a newfound desire to not only find, but also involve myself in what I call a “Jewish community.” I volunteered to serve on the Board of the Jewish Federation because it is the umbrella organization that brings together and supports all the Jewish life in Grand Rapids. I attended Federation activities and became a member of Ahavas Israel while also regularly attending Temple functions. More recently I was honored to accept a position on the Board of Directors of Ahavas. 

So now, I am proud to call myself a member of Congregation Ahavas Israel of Grand Rapids. For me Judaism revolves around not only attending Jewish functions, but also being a member of one or more of the local Jewish institutions.  It is no longer enough just to be a Jewish lawyer; I need to be part of a Congregation and community. When asked to sit on the Bimah or have an Aliya, I am honored to accept. As a Board member of Ahavas, I encourage our members to attend activities with me that we are currently planning at the synagogue.  

Now I have also become a part of the Ahavas Membership Committee because I want to encourage Jewish neighbors, who are NOT affiliated with one of the three local facilities, to reconsider their choice. Just having a Jewish mother is just not enough. I also want to be proactive and encourage non-affiliated Jewish families to not only attend Federation activities, but also to become proud Ahavas Israel members.

So that recaps my Jewish journey up to this point. Ahavas has already started introducing new activities to Members, and exciting new plans are currently coming to fruition. I look forward to seeing Congregation Members attending not only religious services, but also bringing their family to social activities to hang out at the Synagogue with me, just like I used to do, a long time ago, when I was growing up in Skokie.

Cary Fleischer

Ahavas Israel Board Member

Finding a Spiritual Home - Leah Sauer

David and I moved to Grand Rapids in the winter of 2011. According to old time Grand Rapidians, it was a particularly bad winter, and I was not used to driving on snow and ice. David was working about 50 hours a week so it was a hard move for me.

We went “shul shopping,” and at Congregation Ahavas Israel we found a home. I am grateful for all the people who made us feel welcome.

I began volunteering, and my first job was Kiddush prep, set up, and clean up. I immediately felt part of the community. I found that it was easy to get involved here which was not my experience at other synagogues where we were members. The ability of getting involved so easily is one of the advantages of belonging to a small Synagogue.

Next I was approached by David Reifler to be a board member. As I thought about what my particular talents were, I remembered that I was good with numbers and enjoyed them. I, therefore, told him that I would like to be Treasurer. This was quite a bold step on my part as we were brand new to the community. I expected him to agree and suggest I wait a few years. However, he was enthusiastic about the idea. My next step was to talk to Bill Lewis who was Treasurer at the time. He asked me what experience I had, and I told him not much. However, he accepted me and said he would be willing to train me.

And train me he did! For the next year or more, he met with me once a week and took my many phone calls. It was a long learning curve, but I really enjoyed it and will always be grateful to Bill. I consider it a privilege to have served as your Treasurer for these past seven years.

Recently I have begun to branch out. When I read that Rabbi Krishef wanted to start a book group, I contacted him and have become the coordinator of this group. I also became the chair of the Acquisitions Committee as well as starting a Zentangle art group that is a combination of drawing and meditation.

Congregation Ahavas Israel has offered me many opportunities for growth, and I am glad I have been able to take advantage of all of them.


Leah Sauer

Ahavas Israel Board Member

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